1. She knows how to get herself off
Because if she already knows what she likes, it’s that much easier for you to know what she likes, so you don’t feel like you’re playing “guess how to make me come” at a sex carnival. Also, if she doesn’t know how to get herself off, you need to help her immediately because that’s not OK.
2. She feels comfortable telling you what she does and doesn’t want.
A lot of this could be attributed to how comfortable she feels sharing things with you because she knows you won’t judge her or make her feel bad for anything, but it also means she’s someone who is able to speak her mind and verbalize her needs, so she’s basically a badass superhero chick because that shit is hard.
3. If you tell her you don’t want to do something, she’s like, “OK whatevs.”
She just stops immediately and moves on to something else, totally unfazed. It’s just that easy. It’s like when someone offers you some of their pizza and you’re like, “I don’t want pizza, but I want some of your cupcakes,” and bam, next thing you know you’re eating cupcakes.
4. If you tell her you want to try something new, she’s like, “Sure, let’s do it!”
She might not be that into butt play, but if it’s important to you she doesn’t rule it out. Kind of like if I asked you if you wanted to dress up like zombies and go to the mall. It sounds nuts but also it could be really fun if you think about it.
5. Once you’ve had sex, you never want to leave her bed ever again.
When someone is bad in bed, all you want to do is race out the door like the apartment is on fire and the cause of that fire is terrible sex. When it’s great you pretty much don’t wanna leave your bed ever again. Your bed is your new residence and you forward your mail there.
6. You talk about consent so much it’s almost obnoxious.
But also that’s pretty perfect because you know it means she cares about whether or not you’re into every single thing she’s doing, which is dreamy.
7. She kisses you after oral sex.
Unless you specifically don’t want her to, she’s totally cool with kissing you after oral sex because she’s not disgusted by you or any part of you. Plus sex is pretty gross in general. If you can’t be like, “Yeah, fluids are everywhere! Woo!” you should probably head home.
8. She’s really into having sex with you.
Whether it’s her breathing or moaning or dirty talk, you don’t have any doubt in your mind that she’s totally psyched to be having sex with you right now. It’s the sexual equivalent of going to dinner with someone who never checks their phone while you’re eating. So good.
9. She makes you laugh during sex.
Because she doesn’t take it super seriously. Plus, plenty of hilarious things happen during sex. If you both can laugh at your weird leg cramp and the hair you can’t get out of your mouth, you have something good right there.
10. She wants to make you come as much as she wants to make herself come.
Sex can easily get reduced to, “Yeah, we’re fucking each other but I’m basically just chilling.” She doesn’t just lie there and expect you to do everything. She loves making you feel good as well and you’re both putting in the same amount of effort because you’re crazy about each other.
11. She’s not thinking about the annoying work email she got an hour ago.
You can tell when someone is having sex with you but also is super distracted. Your lady does not do this because this is the worst.
12. She never makes fun of your fantasies.
You have a fantasy where you’re both dressed up as teen detectives trying to figure out The Mystery of the Missing Cell Phone? She’s game. (Yes, that’s the first example of roleplaying that came into my head. No, I don’t know why.)
13. She goes out of her way to do little things she knows turn you on.
Whether it’s thigh-highs or short skirts, she knows what you’re into and genuinely wants to turn you on, so she’s game to wear whatever works.
14. She makes you feel awesome about your body.
You never worry if your penis is too small or if your breasts are too weird or your butt is too big because you feel 100 percent confident that she’s into 100 percent of you. So much so that you’re pretty sure you could legit model if you wanted to, but you know, who has time for that?
15. You’ve thought, She’s the best I’ve ever had, and realized you meant it.
Like you really, really meant it. Like you’ve thought about her when you masturbated and you guys have sex for real all the time. That’s some next-level shit.